Thursday, March 12, 2009

Ladies, if your husband cheated on you, would you forgive him? Most often, I hear the words, "I can forgive, but I will never forget." I know learning to forgive and forget an affair is possible but challenging.

I read about this online the other day and I feel like killing this asshole hope what goes around comes around in some form!!!


Source: http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/3/9/nation/3434304&sec=nation


Desperate hubby pleading for wife to come home

By KNG ZHENG GUAN

PETALING JAYA: In a desperate attempt to win back his estranged wife, a man has continued to plead for her forgiveness in public.



Salesman Kelvin Ng, 29, made his first public attempt a week ago in SS2 here. On Saturday, the distressed husband tried again, kneeling down in front of Amcorp Mall with banners and a poster saying “I Love You Lee Sook Chin”.

Speaking to reporters as he knelt, Ng swore that if his wife returned to him, he would repent.

“I want her to be the most admired woman out there and I want her to think that this marriage was never a wrong choice.

“I am doing my best to rescue this marriage and the whole world will be my witness,” he said.

Ng said his wife had claimed that he had been caught cheating on her six times.

However, he said he only cheated on her thrice and vowed not to be “playful” anymore.

Two weeks ago, his wife left him, leaving behind their two children – a boy, aged three and a girl, aged one.

One of his friends, Alex Tang, 30, said they were also there to do all they could to help Ng, who had been depressed.

Ng, who had earlier pledged to kneel for a whole day or until he passed out, remained in his position outside the mall until 10pm.

However, it was in vain because his wife did not come back.

When contacted, his wife Crystal Lee, 24, asked to be left alone.

“I will forgive my husband anyway but I need time to think it over,” she said.


Geez!! and he dared to say it is ONLY THRICE?!?

Man, cheating is easy, but please asks yourself one question before you cheat, "Is it worth it?"



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Jackie said... @ 12/3/09 6:44 PM

Forgive

Jackie said... @ 12/3/09 6:45 PM

Walter has been a wonderful and faithful husband for 27 years. I would forgive if he slipped up once!! :)

Jackie said... @ 12/3/09 6:47 PM

But, I don't worry because he is a grem-a-phobic!! he's scared he will catch something...LOL!!! happy day Monica!! :* :* :) :)

Monica said... @ 12/3/09 7:08 PM

Jackie! :* :* FC! :-D

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Monica said... @ 12/3/09 7:08 PM

I'm glad to hear that Jackie!! ;) 8-) :*

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gagay said... @ 12/3/09 7:18 PM

FORGIVE

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Monica said... @ 12/3/09 7:20 PM

GREAT!!! Walter is on the safe side :)

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Janice Ng said... @ 12/3/09 7:33 PM

Forgive also :)

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Janice Ng said... @ 12/3/09 7:34 PM

I think it is quite embarrassing to kneel down like that in public. Whole world would have know it. Chamz.... :-[

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Guest said... @ 12/3/09 7:59 PM

Waah, this wife has guts! She even left him with 2 kids. That's the hardest part - just imagine, with 2 kids to look after, how can he fool around anymore? Crystal you're damned smart! To forgive him? Hm, I am not sure....to forget? No way. To get back with him? Yes... >:o

Angie said... @ 12/3/09 8:01 PM

Oops, made a mistake.. the upper comment is left by me... =-X

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Guest said... @ 12/3/09 10:50 PM

What kind of woman leaves her children behind?

LadyJava said... @ 12/3/09 11:35 PM

FORGET!!!
Three times is TOO much.. what if he was not caught? would it be 300 times??!!

FORGET!!!! >:o >:o >:o

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LadyJava said... @ 12/3/09 11:36 PM

I mean.. like GET LOST LOSER! The woman deserve better!

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foongpc said... @ 13/3/09 2:39 AM

Haha! 6 times halved to 3 times? I think I read this at another blog and also commented. Well, poor man have to kneel like that - the wife should forgive him, but leave him anyway. Reason? There's no guarantee he will not do it again. Besides, the next time, he will kneel down again and place bigger banners. LOL!

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Lanie said... @ 13/3/09 5:54 AM

I think his wife has to forgive him for the sake of their children and their married. They needs married counselling.

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Cashmere said... @ 13/3/09 6:45 AM

3 times is a bit too much isn't it?
It's hard to trust that he won't cheat on her again.. But if i'm the wife, I'll be willing to give him one final chance for the sake of my young children. After that, no way!

grace said... @ 13/3/09 10:59 AM

Wow! This is awesome. I hope all cheating husbands are like that, too.
By the way, thank you very much, Monica, for wishing my wellness while I was sick. I appreciated it very much. :)

Nick Phillips said... @ 13/3/09 11:10 AM

Yeah and he had the cheek to say 'only thrice' some more! I would not forgive him that's for sure.

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 11:22 AM

8-) 8-)

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 11:22 AM

;) 8-)

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 11:24 AM

Janice, he wanted the whole world to be the witness mah... :-D

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 11:29 AM

Hi Angie! hmmm what's the point to get back with him if she can't forgive and forget.. :-P

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 11:29 AM

no worries dear! ;)

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:04 PM

yeah it's her mistake of leaving her children behind when she left her husband.. but she's in a tough spot and she has reacted the only way she knows how..

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:22 PM

300 times?! lol..

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:22 PM

I agree on that LJ!

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Jean said... @ 13/3/09 12:25 PM

hello mon!!
you've been tagged, dear! :* :*

Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:35 PM

yeah it's a very sad fact as there is no way that you can ensure him that he would not cheat..

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:42 PM

Hi Lanie. Talk of separation is painful esp when it involves children, but I guess their mental, emotional, and physical well being should be a top priority that is not damaged by the husband's misdeeds..

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:56 PM

too much indeed! yeah coping with divorce cannot be easy for children!

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 12:58 PM

hope you feel better Grace! :* :*

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 1:04 PM

Nick, how will you ever forgive him if he is not being truthful right..?

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 1:05 PM

Hi Jean! :* :* ok, I'll be right there ;)

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levian said... @ 13/3/09 3:35 PM

3 is as worst as 6! at the age of 30, he'll probably play for many "rounds" for years to come. i find it hard to trust his sincerity no matter how humiliating his acts to plead her is. >:o

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Paul U said... @ 13/3/09 3:51 PM

I don't think that forgive an d forget should always be encourage.


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gagay, MD said... @ 13/3/09 5:26 PM

ate angie!?!??!

gagay, MD said... @ 13/3/09 5:26 PM

ate angie is a guest?

gagay said... @ 13/3/09 5:27 PM

te mon!

life ramblings said... @ 13/3/09 6:11 PM

FORGIVE ALSO!

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life ramblings said... @ 13/3/09 6:14 PM

my hubby has not cheated on me so far.

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life ramblings said... @ 13/3/09 6:15 PM

infact, i've always reminded him not to bring home sexually transmitted diseases as a souvenir.

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life ramblings said... @ 13/3/09 6:16 PM

i know some men get tired of having rice for dinner every nite and occasionally want sushi.
i hope it will never happen to me :(

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elai said... @ 13/3/09 6:21 PM

it's so hard to decide ... :( :( :(

Ori said... @ 13/3/09 7:56 PM

she should be wiser about her children..I mean leaving them with their irresponsible dad and now who is also distress...hmm..I hope the children are safe.
She should give him a chance for the last time, but doesn't have to forget. If it happens again, then just kick him out before he transmit her any disease >:o

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Ori said... @ 13/3/09 8:03 PM

Btw...who can guarantee that his pleading publicly is not just because he's an attention seeker :P

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Monica said... @ 13/3/09 8:25 PM

Hi Gagay! :* :*

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Twinks said... @ 13/3/09 8:36 PM

Hi MOn! :)

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Twinks said... @ 13/3/09 8:37 PM

Forget him woman! >:o

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Twinks said... @ 13/3/09 8:38 PM

6 times? no way! once a cheat always a cheat! imagine he cheated on his wife 6 times...will he ever learn? nah! *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW*

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Twinks said... @ 13/3/09 8:39 PM

they both are nuts actually! hahaha.. a cheat husband and a [i dunno] wife.. imagine leaving their kids under his husband's care? >:o >:o >:o

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Jean said... @ 13/3/09 8:46 PM

OMG! mon. pls forgive me for not reading this post earlier! This guy is a scumbag! How dare he said ONLY thrice! I would take my entire life to forgive my man if he's cheating on me [once]. Now this guy, 6 times! im sorry Mr.Ng! It's useless you're doing these things now. Where were your conscious before you cheated on your wife second time or the third and so on??

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Jean said... @ 13/3/09 8:48 PM

you're right, twinks! how can his wife leave two children under his care? but then again, maybe she's planning her life now and are going to take them wt her? Pity her lar, she's only 24 yrs old.

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Jean said... @ 13/3/09 8:56 PM

hi angie! the wife is only 24. I think she can get a better life without this man who has cheated on her thrice/ 6 times. She might be able to forgive him in times but nvr to forget this bitterful chapter of her life. I hope when she has cooled down, she would take care of her children.

Children are the most innocent in situation like this. Hope they will grow up surrounded wt love and respect. *HUGZ* for the kids!

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Jean said... @ 13/3/09 8:59 PM

hi Ori, I am so sry. But i dun think she should give him another chance? Will she be happy then? I dunno, maybe I am just being stubborn. I cannot accept a husband who cheated on his wife. We're not talking about once or twice. *DON'T KNOW*

Jean said... @ 13/3/09 10:52 PM

i believe that communication and understanding are two important aspects for a good marriage. We must constantly communicate with our other half to know their needs and for them to know our needs. Then we need understanding to understand their needs. I am not afraid that my other half will cheat on me, because I truly believe in him. And one more important thing is that we must put God in the center of our relationship. :)

Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:04 AM

:* :*

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:05 AM

I read abt this guy too but what's up la cheating 6 times? >:o >:o >:o >:o

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:07 AM

And then want to justify the other 3 by saying play2 only! >:o >:o

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:10 AM

Aloha Jean! :*

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:11 AM

Hey Twinks! 8-)

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:11 AM

Hi Jackie! 8-) 8-)

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:11 AM

Hi GG! :) :)

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:11 AM

Hi Jan!

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:11 AM

Mon and her guests LOL! 8-) 8-)

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:12 AM

Hi LR! 8-) 8-)

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Mariuca said... @ 14/3/09 6:12 AM

LOL! LR, don la say so far, hopefully never kay? :* :*

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Jean said... @ 14/3/09 11:51 AM

hehe.. morning marzie!! im just gonna laze around on my saturday afternoon! How 'bout u? :)

life ramblings said... @ 14/3/09 1:46 PM

Hi Jean!
If the marriage is at its healthiest, there should be no reason for the spouse to find other partners.

Some say, it usually involves the issue of sex and lack of attention at home. I don't think anyone can stop men if they want to stray.

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life ramblings said... @ 14/3/09 1:48 PM

let's keep our fingers crossed that this unpleasant episode does not happen to any of us.

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Ori said... @ 14/3/09 3:46 PM

8-)Jean, I still think she should give him another chance, because they both are so irresponsible parents!! How could she left the children with someone like that who's now doing some opera soap by pleading on the street and leave the children alone? She should give him the last chance so she could go back to the house and take the children away with her when he goes banana again, otherwise I think it'll be hard for her to take custody of the children cause she neglected them at the first place.

Ori said... @ 14/3/09 3:58 PM

Mon.....have you seen this guy's blog??
It's so absurd...lol.
I wonder if he (or even she?)'s just made it up to get public' attention? He even put some ads waiting to be click there :-$ And the video...lol.. :-P and there's also his Crystal's shouts on the shoutbox there!!

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Jean said... @ 14/3/09 4:54 PM

true, life ramblings! thanks for yr insight! :)

Jean said... @ 14/3/09 4:55 PM

:) :* life ramblings! ;)

elai said... @ 14/3/09 6:15 PM

hello monica... ;)

molly said... @ 14/3/09 7:59 PM

=-O nobody to take care of his children :( and no money to pay for baby sitter. So he desperately need his wife back just to take care of the children. Dont forgive!!

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eastcoastlife said... @ 14/3/09 9:57 PM

Cheated his wife so many times!? His wife has tolerated enough. :P

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eastcoastlife said... @ 14/3/09 9:58 PM

Probably she was tolerant and kept quiet that's why he kept hurting her. Now that she left, he realised his mistake.

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eastcoastlife said... @ 14/3/09 9:59 PM

Give him the last chance.

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Jean said... @ 14/3/09 10:11 PM

that's right, ECL! everyone has its limit!

Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:32 PM

yeah Levian.. it's hard to trust him after infidelity!

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Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:40 PM

Hi Paul! well, I think it depends on the depth of the hurt..

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Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:42 PM

hehe LR.. like what Mariuca said, hopefully never!!!

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Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:44 PM

8-) 8-)

Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:51 PM

haha! in the future, I demand my husband be faithful to me or I'll not stay in the marriage!!! :-D

Monica said... @ 14/3/09 11:58 PM

Hi Elai! it's not easy indeed!

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:02 AM

hi Ori! right.. and also he's simply just immature..

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:03 AM

Hi Twinks! :*

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:03 AM

haha.. forgive and forget?

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:04 AM

you're right Twinks!!

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:06 AM

lol! It's alright Jean! Thanks for all the comments you've left here. I really appreciated it! :* :*

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:06 AM

:* :* :*

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:09 AM

SOME men just can't keep their c*ck in their pants!

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:09 AM

so funny right...LOL!

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:13 AM

wahhhh... I've not seen his blog.. what's the URL, Ori?

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:14 AM

Hello Elai! :* ;)

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:16 AM

haha Molly! he needs his wife just to take care of the children ONLY? >:o *DONT_KNOW*

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:17 AM

good for him!!!

Monica said... @ 15/3/09 12:17 AM

*DONT_KNOW* :-E

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:58 AM

hola GP!

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:58 AM

;) ;) ;) ;) ;)

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:58 AM

:* :* :* :* :*

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:58 AM

:-D =-O :-D =-O :-D

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:59 AM

GP, another guest of te mon!

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 12:59 AM

LOL! :-D :-D :-D :-D

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 1:00 AM

...then FORGET!

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 1:01 AM

hola te lai! yer er! ;) ;) ;) ;)

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 1:01 AM

:-E :-E :-E :-E :-E *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW* *DONT_KNOW*

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:18 AM

Hola GG! U just missed another * post at my site sweetie!!!!

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:18 AM

He he welcome Guest lol! ;)

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:18 AM

Hiya Mon! ;)

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:19 AM

Hola GG! No lab tonight?

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:19 AM

I oso wan to see his blog Mon! ;)

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:19 AM

Idiot la those type of men! Me no likey! :(

Mariuca said... @ 15/3/09 1:20 AM

Morning Jean! Wakey wakey! ;)

gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 2:56 AM

no lab GP!

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gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 2:56 AM

:-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

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gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 2:56 AM

yeah! am missing everything GP!

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gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 2:57 AM

:'( :'( :'( :'(

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gagay, MD said... @ 15/3/09 2:57 AM

LOL!

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Ori said... @ 15/3/09 10:30 AM

I don't want to popularise his url here, but you can go to this following blog where I found about his blog. It's right there :-P http://stephanella.wordpress.com/2009/03/14/unfaithful-husband-kelvin-ng-pleading-for-wifes-forgiveness-in-public/

Ori said... @ 15/3/09 10:36 AM

Oops..I broke up your comment box lol... How to leave a long url without breaking the comment box?? >:o
Let me try here:
that guy's blog is inside here.
I hope this won't mess your comment box eheheheheh sooryy Mon!!!

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Ori said... @ 15/3/09 10:38 AM

it works..it works... :-D :*
Ok I leave now before you kick me =-X

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gagay said... @ 15/3/09 10:41 AM

=-O =-O =-O =-O =-O

gagay said... @ 15/3/09 10:42 AM

=-O =-O =-O =-O =-O

gagay said... @ 15/3/09 10:42 AM

:-E :-E :-E :-E :-E

Monica said... @ 16/3/09 5:14 PM

hahhaha... it's ok Ori! NO WORRIES :* ;)

Thanks ya; I'll check it out :-D :)

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levian said... @ 17/3/09 9:10 AM

i don't even wanna imagine it happening to me or anyone around me. unacceptable!

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Monica said... @ 17/3/09 2:25 PM

let's just hope that this will never happen to anyone of us! ;)

Jackie said... @ 19/3/09 4:02 AM

Yippeeeee....i was FC some where!! yayyyyyy!!!! :* :* :) :)

ayie said... @ 24/3/09 6:23 AM

Forgive and forget, it makes sense coz you can forgive the mistake but never can you really forget the pain. Just imagine how many times he cheated on his wife? I don't think I can stay with a man like that either!

Monica said... @ 25/3/09 12:51 AM

same here Ayie! I'll not stay with a man who cheated on me!!

Jerry said... @ 16/7/09 4:33 PM

Hi Monica, i think she can forgive him but not getting back together. the reason is because this man do not deserve his wife. you guys should have seen the video that made by him and what he said about his wife previously. If he can do it once or twice what make u think it won be the 3rd time?

ppl that like to cheat on their bf/gf/spouse especially having affair.. they will never change.

Why now only regret.. he should not do that at the 1st place. he deserve it.

i also a man and i also have gf. we been together up and down for 5 years. that is what i think :)

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Monica said... @ 18/7/09 3:43 AM

Hi Jerry, I TOTALLY agree with you! A cheating husband needs to be remorseful and understand the result of his actions. Most men are truly sorry that they have hurt their wives. well, he's not really sorry about the affair, he's only sorry he got caught!

yr gf is a very lucky girl; she's lucky to have you! ;) :)

Jerry said... @ 20/7/09 5:47 PM

Hi monica,

Thank you for dropping at my blog Smile I replied ur comment too Smile

yup... u are right.. he only sorry after he got caught... nobody is perfect in this world, as human being, mistake will always happen. as i told to most of my fren. what ever you do in your relationship there is 1 thing we should not do.. is having affair and play with ppl feeling especially those are dearest to us. This is the mistake that a person SHOULD not even think of doing it.

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Jerry said... @ 20/7/09 10:40 PM

Hi Monica.. just to inform u i just change my blog URL...

http://www.jerry-cornelius.blogspot.com/

:)

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Mariuca said... @ 20/7/09 10:50 PM

Monica!!!

Mariuca said... @ 20/7/09 10:50 PM

Meow meow!

Monica said... @ 21/7/09 7:22 PM

Hi Jerry! I'll visit yr new blog soon! oh btw, I got yr msg at FB but I didn't know how to reply yr msg at FB huhuhu :-[ :-[ :-[

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